Wednesday, March 15, 2006

childhood gender nonconformity

I watched Sunday's edition of Sixty Minutes with great interest. And, at the part with little Adam's painted fingernails, great anxiety.

(My fellow cloggers, I tried for a couple of hours on Monday to get a nice screen-capture of said painted fingernails, but my computer just refused to cooperate. Go to malcontent; the b1tch b34t me to it.)

Why the anxiety? Oh, I suppose it's the many successfully-suppressed memories from my childhood. Like pretending to be a girl with my female cousin. (Heck, I think there were plenty of times I was playing at that while all alone.) Somewhere, deep in a family photo album, I seem to remember a picture.

Good Lord, why are there pictures?

Thankfully, there are no pictures of me and a female family friend (Andrea) playing with Barbies and getting caught by her older brother. "You don't think he'll tell his friends*, do you, Andrea?" I asked.

Other physical evidence exists. Like my handmade sock puppets. All female. With long yarn hair. There was a brunette, a blonde, and a redhead. (I hardly ever played with the redhead.) They're buried in a box somewhere.

Yep. I pretty much screamed gay from a very early age.

* many of whom would go on to be my future tormentors in high school

29 comments:

tornwordo said...

That was a fascinating report, though I am suspect at the reasons why so much research is being done on it - to remedy it perhaps? Anyway, Spouse thought it was terrible that the parents would permit the boy's nail painting, and though it made me anxious as well, I thought about how our culture has encoded us somehow to be uncomfortable with it. Strange. On the one hand we say, Be an Individual, Express Yourself, Be Who You Are, while on the other we punish you if you do any of those things.

Gay at an early age? I never got the Easy Bake Oven that I begged for annually from Santa.

toobusyliving said...

I had a Holly Hobbie oven. My parents had no business at all being surprised when they "discovered" I was gay.

Crucible said...

Can you repair? Our dog as a puppy made many of our daughters' barbies "challenged".

Jason said...

Sorry MR, but I LOL'ed when I thought of the sock puppets with long yarn hair.

The part that amazed me were the identical twins where one was gay and the other wasn't. That's going to feed the whole, "it's a choice, ya know" debate.

Arrrgghh.

toobusyliving said...

Why would anyone choose to be unhappy.

Butchieboy said...

My sister had an E Z bake oven and I usta pit her Barbies in it. Uh oh...

Carrie said...

you know what i'm making you for christmas right? I AM! I PROMISE YOU!

Dead Robot said...

One of the earliest photos of me has me wearing a towel turban, an improvised towel mumu, Mom's biggest clunkiest bracelets and my hands 90 degrees from my arm, pointing sharply to the floor.

So fabulous, so young.

your judgemental aunt said...

Ummm...my parents bought me motorbikes, fishing rods and a BB gun (didn't much like the BB gun) Didn't really do much in the line of girly things unless arts and crafts count 'cause I was crafty but that turned into wood wooking so I guess that's pretty butch!

As for the painting of fingernails...seems more like the parents are using their child to make some sort of a statement, non? How old was the kid?

toobusyliving said...

I liked towel turbans too!!!!

Paul said...

If I ever wanted kids... which I never will....but if I did, I would want to one with the painted fingernails... he was so much more interesting.

Paul said...

By the way I think it is stupid for scientists or whoever to be arguing if being gay is nature or nuture. Shouldn't matter... by arguing it is just nature you are arguing that you shouldn't be blamed and impling that there is somethign wrong with being gay. Who care is Mloyd was born gay or just loves dolls and cock and choose his life.

Paul said...

Another thought when contemplating the past is think how boring these people who tormented you likely are today. They are a likely married or divorced, live in some horrid suburb, have three crappy kids, a mini-van, and a wood paneled basement, haven't had a blowjob in three years and more debt than you can imagine.

You on the otherhand can go to Spain 'cause it sounds fun, eat at cool resturants, fly off for a booze filled vacation, or order some Ricky for the weekend....

I'd rather be you anyday.

mistipurple said...

i want your handmade sock puppets.

Butchieboy said...

Wait a second...you're gay?

Anonymous said...

Paul = verbal diahrea

Anonymous said...

I rimmed Butchie Boy.

Adorable Girlfriend said...

I don't buy any of it. I had a cousin who played with My Little Ponies, owned a Barbie,painted his toe nails, asked for and got my girl cousins' pink pajama hand-me-downs and various other savory items. You know what, today he gets and likes more women than I know what to do with.

It's all good either way.

madamerouge said...

I fucking heart all of you.

I had a mild anxiety attack after writing the first draft of this post, and nearly had to take an Ativan. But then an obnoxious radio ad for a shitty new beer reminded me of how much I loathe gender stereotypes, and I decided to go ahead and publish.

madamerouge said...

anonymous, in the middle of the night: uh-oh, Jimmy got dwunk again

Paul: careful, some of my best friends live in suburbs. Other than that... I agree 100%

The Persian said...

I never played with girls dolls/barbies because I had no siblings and few friends as a kid.

BUT I did have a kickass Sock Monkey Doll which went everywhere with me!

:)

Anonymous said...

please, please, please, please, please pull out the sock puppets and put on a little play with "too busy living" & "jimmy" and post a copy of it. I'm laughing already just thinking what you guys would come up with...

ps. love paul's post. 100% true. rock on with your bad self mloyd. :) jooles.

Kunstemæcker said...

it depends on how many older brothers one has?
wtf.

your judgemental aunt said...

Mme Rouge - poo sex, nature or nuture?

Paul - Do you really think Mme Rouge wouldn't like a house in the suburbs and a wood paneled basement? I think she's love it!

teh l4m3 said...

Send the boy to NARTH -- they'll beat teh gay right out of him!

P.S. YJA: I'm pretty sure the Madame is more partial to crawl-spaces... hee hee.

Butchieboy said...

Jimmy paid me a visit last night, too.

Adorable Girlfriend said...

What kind of visit are we exactly talking about butchie?

George Larson said...

Y'know, the kind that involves homersexual actifications.

Natasha said...

I will have to show this to your brother tonight. He's going to laugh his ass off.

XOX
P.S. BRING THE SOCK PUPPETS TO STAYNER!