Thursday, October 19, 2006

in love with being in love

Many years ago, someone told me that I was "in love with being in love." I took issue with that notion. I found it dismissive. It devalued the fact that I was lonely and was hoping to fall in love and shack up. I thought it was like saying "you're in love with being healthy," or "prosperous," or "happy." Duh.

This idea was addressed in a recent Savage Love column. If what this poor guy wrote to Dan about is true, then I think I finally understand what "in love with love" might mean.

I'm curious to know what y'all think.

24 comments:

St. Dickeybird said...

I love being in love. The excitement, especially with a new partner, can be such an adrenaline rush. Even after time, being in a good coupling is still a great feeling.
As long as you're "in love with love," and not just "scared to be alone," you're fine.
And if you're scared to be alone, masturbate more!

Pablo said...

Wanting a relationship isn't a bad thing. There is nothing wrong with that. It turns bad when you hold on to something for so long that is not good for you...like the guy in the article. I know all too well. (but not about the dog fucking...gross!)

I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to be in a good relationship...as long as you are not willing to settle for ANY relationship.

Natasha said...

I love this part:

"When you realize that you're falling in love with a hopeless mess, NAGS, you don't hang in there, hoping that your love will cure him. It won't. Love is great, love is grand, but love ain't chemotherapy – it's not going to magically turn some sick fucker into a healthy fucker."

I think Dan is right. If you're not feeling the love, you're not getting the love. Are you feeling it, Mloyd?

Jason said...

I've given up on love. I just eat carbs and take anti-depressants. Hopefully this won't be a long life.

Miss Thistle said...

"Love is great, love is grand, but love ain't chemotherapy – it's not going to magically turn some sick fucker into a healthy fucker."

Word.

Also? Jeezus that poor friggin' dog!!

Timmy said...

I think we are all in love with the ideal of being in love to some degree.

Timmy said...

PS -- that article is disgusting.

Salem said...

In love with love isn't as bad as In love with donuts

Timmy said...

good point Salem

madamerouge said...

ROTFLMAO
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I think Dan is right. If you're not feeling the love, you're not getting the love. Are you feeling it, Mloyd?

Well, Natasha, I sometimes feel it from clog, but let's face it: that doesn't keep you warm at night. Or help you take the air conditioner out of your window so you don't freeze your tukus off once fall comes.

toobusyliving said...

Here's your book

liquid said...

Loving to be in love is great. Being in love is such a great feeling that it only makes sense. But using it to justify to yourself A)a bad relationship, or B) being with the first thing on two (or four) legs that comes along, is insane and masochistic.

your judgemental aunt said...

Love is stupid and for the weak.

Pablo said...

I'm in love with this blog...

Jason said...

You get nothing.

Graham Russell said...

Pablo once was told that he is cursed by his beauty. They were right.

Salem said...

Aunties next blog title: "Down with Love"

Nölff said...

I love mustard

Anonymous said...

100% me (minus the pooch screwing) I've always been in love with love... and have been IN love no less than 2,398,546 times. No, I know.

your judgemental aunt said...

In the wise words of Bon Jovi - LOVE IS A SOCIAL DISEASE

Pablo said...

Graham Russell....CRAMMIT! Oh, wait. You're not Graham Russell...you are Amanda.

Steven said...

If you can be in love with love, does that mean you can hate hate?

But, that would mean you love love, right?

My brain hurts... I need a drink.

Anonymous said...

wish I'd known about the "your love can't cure" thing a couple years ago. oh wella, live and learn right?

btw - there's such a thing as a "passionate zoophile"? I'm too afraid to google it....

jooles.

Butchieboy said...

Here's a nice guy. Mabye you could look him up, Rouge.