I will never watch BSG again

Stephen (the guy I was seeing; the one I so foolishly thought I was going to marry) ended things this morning. Over the phone. While he was driving to his eighth straight day at work.

I've been robbed of the dignity I would've had by ending things first. We've had many problems in our very short time together. From early on, I found it difficult to adjust to his unpredictable and erratic behaviour. On our second date, he said "I already know how I'm going to propose to you." On our third date, he (jokingly) said "I know it's early, but will you marry me?" I laughed it off, but later that evening, I did tell him that I loved him. He responded with "I think I love you too."

He had a business trip to the UK after our third date. He called me daily. One evening (while drunk), he said "I do love you, you know that... right?"

He was honest from the beginning about his shortcomings: he smoked too much pot, he was terrible with money, he had a bad history with infidelity... I took these things in stride, knowing that no one's perfect.

The high point was reached on my birthday (January 30th). He took me out for an amazing dinner, and told me repeatedly "you're the best thing that's ever happened to me."

The bloom was off the rose in early February. Stephen had a doctor's appointment, and I met him afterward for lunch. His doctor had noticed a mark on his hand and decided a syphilis test was in order. "Don't worry babe," he told me. "If I have syphilis, it would be like the immaculate conception. I had almost no sex last year." He started to pull away from me after that point. Two weeks later, he called and told me that the test was positive. I couldn't get an appointment with my GP, so off to the free clinic I went. After enduring that humiliation — and post-exposure prophylaxis for syphilis — Stephen called and dropped another bomb on me: he was sure he contracted it in the UK.

Monogamy is tricky at best in the human mammal; it's almost non-existent among gay men. But it was way too soon for this problem to pop up on the radar.

While I write this, I'm fighting the urge to put my feelings down on paper, tuck it into the shoebox full of his stuff (including souvenirs from England and the first season of BSG), and drop it off at his house. I want to be the bigger person, and not act out of spite. I want him to realize that he let a quality, husband-material guy slip out of his hands.

Stephen introduced me to BSG, but I will never be able to watch it again. I will always associate it with him. The sombre, haunting intro music goes through me like a knife. I can't take the darkness, the death, the fear...

Comments

sirbarrett said…
I'm sorry man. I'll try to resist saying anything cliché but mention that it sounds like it could have been a lot worse for you. Someone who proposes during the honeymoon period of your relationships and qualifies his 'I love you's with "I think" obviously needs to figure themselves out BEFORE they get into another relationship. You really don't deserve that.
Anonymous said…
He ended it? HE ended it? The nerve of that fucking shit...

That's it, I WILL NEVER WATCH BSG!!! Not EVER!
BSG is gay!

The gayest!

Quit that shit!

P.S. New blog site for AG: empireofthesenseless.blogspot.com!
Dead Robot said…
He doesn't deserve the courtesy of seeing you in person after that crap he put you through. Leave it in a dumpster and send him a text where he might find it.

Srsly! Bad rubbish can dig in bad rubbish!

Remember, living well is the best revenge. Get happy, get busy, get married off and then RUB IT IN THAT FUCKERS FACE.
Anonymous said…
awwwwww Rouge:( I'm really sorry to read this..... I often read about people's break ups in blogs and sort of shrug and move along....... But you've written about yours very movingly, and in a very adult way.....

Sorry to hear things imploded on you xx

I'll have you! ................:)
ty bluesmith said…
typically i'm unmoved.

maybe you made that happen a little.
Phronk said…
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Sure nobody's perfect, but it sounds like you are a lot more perfect than him. So, as cliche as it sounds, it's probably for the best. You can do better. Plenty of fish in the sea etc. And truly, things will get better with time.

But don't blame it on Adama! It's still a good show!
tornwordo said…
He ended it after exposing you? Fucker. Sending hugs your way though.
sirbarrett said…
Can anyone ever really *always* win?
Jason said…
If it makes you feel any better, my WoW character (named after you) is doing great and loves you.
Snooze said…
you are worth so much more.
Miss Thistle said…
Just saw this now. Go put on some Tori and enjoy the hugs I'm sending with my mind.

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