he doesn't look a thing like Jesus
My last two posts were about love and romance. Here's why:
I met someone at the beginning of October. After what I thought was a good first date on the 6th, we made plans for a second date. We talked on the phone, and decided to go for Sunday brunch on the 15th. I called the day before to firm up the plans; he didn't answer. (No, it wasn't a case of me always calling him.)
Sunday came and went. He never called back, or e-mailed. (He still hasn't.)
Boo hoo; big deal. This crap happens to everyone. Be a man; suck it up and move on. You slept with him on the first date. He's seven years younger. You met on a gay hook-up site. You hooked up, and you drove him home the next afternoon. What more were you expecting?
Here's what I was expecting:
Next time, I should set my expectation level to zero and try not to get ahead of myself. But the problem is, with each schlep through the barnyard of dating, I get more and more shit on myself--and it takes longer for me to clean it off and venture out again. Case in point: in the last year, I have been on two dates.
Meanwhile, the smokin' Brandon Flowers is singin' on the radio:
At one point during our date, the beautiful boy asked: "why are you still single?"
That is the most loaded of loaded questions. I've been asked it before, so luckily, I had my boilerplate response ready: "Since my relationship with S ended, I've just been 'striking out' a lot." How the hell are you supposed to answer that question? Please discuss.
I met someone at the beginning of October. After what I thought was a good first date on the 6th, we made plans for a second date. We talked on the phone, and decided to go for Sunday brunch on the 15th. I called the day before to firm up the plans; he didn't answer. (No, it wasn't a case of me always calling him.)
Sunday came and went. He never called back, or e-mailed. (He still hasn't.)
Boo hoo; big deal. This crap happens to everyone. Be a man; suck it up and move on. You slept with him on the first date. He's seven years younger. You met on a gay hook-up site. You hooked up, and you drove him home the next afternoon. What more were you expecting?
Here's what I was expecting:
- to have my call returned
- to go out for a nice brunch, as planned
- that someone who exhibited prior behaviour that can best be described as "into me" wouldn't suddenly give me the brush-off
Next time, I should set my expectation level to zero and try not to get ahead of myself. But the problem is, with each schlep through the barnyard of dating, I get more and more shit on myself--and it takes longer for me to clean it off and venture out again. Case in point: in the last year, I have been on two dates.
Meanwhile, the smokin' Brandon Flowers is singin' on the radio:
You sit there in your heartache
Waiting on some beautiful boy to
To save you from your old ways
You play forgiveness
Watch it now
Here he comes
The Killers, "When You Were Young"
At one point during our date, the beautiful boy asked: "why are you still single?"
That is the most loaded of loaded questions. I've been asked it before, so luckily, I had my boilerplate response ready: "Since my relationship with S ended, I've just been 'striking out' a lot." How the hell are you supposed to answer that question? Please discuss.
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There's so much I don't know about his situation. For example, he could be involved with someone else. It's a rather crucial piece of information that I forgot to get.
If I was closer buddy I would ask you out. You would probably say no, but hey it would make you feel better. And oh yea, I would call you incessently.
*hugs*
Better luck next time, hugs.
I say that because I once settled. It was the worst three months of my life.
I will never settle for anything less than true romance. Neither should you.
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So, I can relate. But, you certainly can't let this one guy dishearten you. He's just one gay...there are other gays.
You're worth waiting for, aren't ya? It gives you some time to see if he's worth waiting for.
but don't ask me, I haven't been on a date in like, ever. We country kids didn't really date. Just went on a lot of long car rides to bush parties and stuff. Plus that 15 year marriage thing makes dating difficult, haha!!!!
"He doesn't look a thing like Jesus, but he talks like a gentleman."
Make him wait, sweetie. It worked for me.
Apparently, he is, and you can't stop thinking about him.
you could have said, 'i'm still single because it's not so easy to find that one person you completely connect with.' this way you still sound a little hard to get and guys dig that.
oh yeah... and in the future, don't fuck on the first date. he probably thinks you're way too easy.
BTW I don't think sleeping with someone on the first date is a big deal or are you talking full on serving it up on the first date because I may not recommend that. Regardless of what you did, your "friend" did it with you so he can't think it's such a big deal unless he’s a hypocrite.
But you should prolly stop following him and calling his mom.