I'm afraid of becoming "Ba"
"I'm one bad date away from being bitter." - Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City
Oh, I've already passed that milestone, I can assure you.
What I'm scared of is sliding into the territory covered by Dame Judi Dench's character Barbara ("Ba") in Notes on a Scandal, which I saw over the weekend. (Fantastic, by the way.) Barbara is bitter, fed-up, and frustrated. She sees an opportunity to take advantage of a naïve new coworker, and uses it to her full advantage.
I'm a good person. I don't enjoy hurting others, and strive to do quite the opposite. But on the eve of my 37th birthday--and after six and a half years of being single--I worry about the effects of prolonged disappointment and solitude.
In the movie, Barbara reads from her journal: "People like Sheba [Cate Blanchett's character] have no idea what it's like to construct an entire weekend around a trip to the laundrette."
Are people like Barbara forged as cruel users in childhood? Were they pulling the wings off flies and playing baseball with frogs? Or, can they be changed that way in adulthood?
Oh, I've already passed that milestone, I can assure you.
What I'm scared of is sliding into the territory covered by Dame Judi Dench's character Barbara ("Ba") in Notes on a Scandal, which I saw over the weekend. (Fantastic, by the way.) Barbara is bitter, fed-up, and frustrated. She sees an opportunity to take advantage of a naïve new coworker, and uses it to her full advantage.
I'm a good person. I don't enjoy hurting others, and strive to do quite the opposite. But on the eve of my 37th birthday--and after six and a half years of being single--I worry about the effects of prolonged disappointment and solitude.
In the movie, Barbara reads from her journal: "People like Sheba [Cate Blanchett's character] have no idea what it's like to construct an entire weekend around a trip to the laundrette."
Are people like Barbara forged as cruel users in childhood? Were they pulling the wings off flies and playing baseball with frogs? Or, can they be changed that way in adulthood?
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Leslie and I we talking about taking in that movie, I am sold on it now!
Happy Birthday, sweets! Mwah!
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happy birthday gorgeous! if i were a gay man, i'd be IN LOVE WITH YOU!
Don't let the world make you bitter. Watch some Will and Grace and take pride in your inner-Will. Who wants to be a Jack all whorish like that!!
People can be tainted and twisted by bitterness I think.
I hope you get something amazing for your birthday :)
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Don't worry, the grass is always greener on the other side. I've spent the better part of my life in relationships. Looking back, I wish I'd spent more of that time single.
I think belated birthday drinks are in order next week. Any takers?
[flaps hands in front of face, tearing up]
...so sweet, all of you...
[wonders where stripper-gram is]
And Jason, didn't we all drink on your birthday? Or am I creating my own memories?
Hickory dickory dock
Two mice ran up the clock
The clock struck one
The other got away
Hickory dickory dock
Love and kisses from,
John & Natasha
Have fun at the movies with the Clacker.
XOX
Lorleen / Maureen
January 30, 2007 4:41 PM